You Lose Your Temper You Lose The Game

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

basically its this,when playing ping dont lose your temper,it is likely you will lose the game,if your getting wound up by nets ,your performance, or the fact you are behind in a game,NEVER lose your temper,i was told as a youngster to channel my aggresion into a positive energy that would increase your will to win and bring your performance into a controlled aggresion ,that would enhance your play by obviously channeling your energy into your overall mental and physical performance, instead of wasting your energy and thought on aggresive loud behavior,put it into playing better stronger shots, think more on how to outwitt your opponent with better serves,work out his weaknesses,dont waste your thoughts and energy whining about an edge or a poor shot, i found this difficult to impliment as a 15 year old but understood it,those of you who know of me will also know i still have had difficulty implimenting what i was taught all those years ago,it is very easy to lose your temper when you believe your playing well and the other guy gets a couple of nets or an edge ,or your playing against someone you cant quite workout how to play,and all you seem to do is pick up the ball of the floor after your opponent has hit his 7th lashed winner , REMEMBER A BASIC RULE, IF YOU LOSE YOUR TEMPER :taz:,YOU LOSE THE GAME. i have lost more games than i care to remeber by losing my temper,games i should have won ,if i had kept calm and played the game,instead of losing 5 from 10 i would have lost only 2 on average.this rule can be implimented in all aspects of life and not just table tennis,remember,YOU LOSE YOUR TEMPER,YOU LOSE THE GAME.

anyway enough of that, i need a pie:popcorn:

[JKC]

So in summary, are you saying 'if you lose your temper, you will lose the game'?

[Annie]

Does this mean if you smile all the way through a game you're gauranteed a win? :thumbsup:

[DaveR]

So in summary, are you saying 'if you lose your temper, you will lose the game'?

Well JKC its probably more reasonanble to say if you dont lose your temper or indeed control your emotions well you stand a better chance of winning..........semantics i realise but nevertheless true.:happy:

[The Windmill]

Ah....but !!!! I find that smiling my way through a match only works when you are winning easy.
If the game is close you need a certain amount of aggression and controlled Psyching up of yourself in order to succeed. Is this not loosing your temper in a controlled way ?

[DaveR]

Aggression.........whats that ? im a calm fellow me

[Les]

I always try to use in conjunction with controlled aggression the 3 c's cool calm and collected together with pauses for deep breathes.
Then a few moments later it all goes out the window.
Les

[TheMoose]

Quite strange but thats the same theory we must all apply, with 3 c's lasting approx 3 - 5 minutes then ...........well the rest is history

[HarryBelafonte]

as a team member of fantasy, what are you on about,cant rmember 1 end where you have not lost your temper,never mind a game .match.season.
lets hope this karmik message is the start of a new beginning..

ha ha....:cry1:


ha:snigger:

[The Windmill]

as a team member of fantasy, what are you on about,cant rmember 1 end where you have not lost your temper,never mind a game .match.season.
lets hope this karmik message is the start of a new beginning..

ha ha....:cry1:


ha:snigger:

I Too, am a team member of FCB and have seen his bat whistling past my ear on many occasion. Perhaps he has eaten a magic pie and had an out of body experience and come back as a melow player :rage:

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

most of those replies dont help the fact that the post was aimed at the youth who attend this site,next time ill say do as i do,will that be better advice ?

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

So in summary, are you saying 'if you lose your temper, you will lose the game'?

constructive comments jkc,did you think about that all by yourself ?

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

as a team member of fantasy, what are you on about,cant rmember 1 end where you have not lost your temper,never mind a game .match.season.
lets hope this karmik message is the start of a new beginning..

ha ha....:cry1:


ha:snigger:


did you read the post or pick out the bits you wanted to see

[DaveR]

This is a marked improvement if we are to believe FCB is being serious

Nice one Chris

Keep it up

ps .............Les we have all done that mate and the control of the 3c's is incredibly difficult at times.

[HarryBelafonte]

very serious.

[DaveR]

lol as usual

yellow card to mr Belafonte !

[TS]

I used to be a right little tare away when i lost. These days i get better results cause iv learned to control my anger.

[JKC]

constructive comments jkc,did you think about that all by yourself ?
I am well known for constructive comments, this one just sort of occurred to me after reading your opener.

[JKC]

I am often at the other end when people lose it as I have a natural ability to wind people up (both at the table and on forums). The odd little chunter here and there, a small moan about the conditions, an insinuation that they were a little fortunate or that you would have returned the ball on any other day is often enough to set them off.

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

I am often at the other end when people lose it as I have a natural ability to wind people up (both at the table and on forums). The odd little chunter here and there, a small moan about the conditions, an insinuation that they were a little fortunate or that you would have returned the ball on any other day is often enough to set them off.
:clapping:you must be so proud ,congratulations for such a huge achievement

[JKC]

I only do it to annoying people and I only lay the trap for people to fall into. If they choose to take the bait then it is up to them. You have to be a bit of a prat to not spot what is going on. It can be more enjoyable than the game at times.

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

I only do it to annoying people and I only lay the trap for people to fall into. If they choose to take the bait then it is up to them. You have to be a bit of a prat to not spot what is going on. It can be more enjoyable than the game at times.

again i send my congratulations to your achievement,little things and little minds :wacko2:

[JKC]

again i send my congratulations to your achievement,little things and little minds :wacko2:
Sorry Fantasy, I don't know what you are getting at. I am not interested in comparing brain power here, so keep your snide comments to yourself. I am just giving the other side of things and trying to explain why it is important not to lose your temper. It would appear you would be someone who might be tempted into a trap should we ever play. Win or lose I would not hold a grudge off the table, it is just another weapon to try during the game. If you don't agree with my methods I really don't care.

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

Sorry Fantasy, I don't know what you are getting at. I am not interested in comparing brain power here, so keep your snide comments to yourself. I am just giving the other side of things and trying to explain why it is important not to lose your temper. It would appear you would be someone who might be tempted into a trap should we ever play. Win or lose I would not hold a grudge off the table, it is just another weapon to try during the game. If you don't agree with my methods I really don't care.

now im bored, i think you should read your posts before saying there are snide comments from me

[JKC]

I think I have hit the nail on the head, haven't I? Do you wind up easily? It appears so.

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

bored:popcorn:

[JKC]

Me too.:yawn:

Just out of interest, how many pints had you had before you wrote the original post in this thread?

[Annie]

What a fine example we are having here of self control. Thank you all for your contributions! :thumbsup:

I have during my career had the responsibility to 'Hire'n'Fire' people. So that I don't ever hit out in anger I make it a rule to sleep on it before I fire someone. This approach can be used with many major decisions.

What techniques do you have for controlling your temper?

[JKC]

I just concentrate on winning the next point and try to put everything else out of my head.

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

Me too.:yawn:

Just out of interest, how many pints had you had before you wrote the original post in this thread?

i take it you dont agree with my original post from your above comments would you like to explain and enlighten my ignorance

[DaveR]

Temper is something we all, including my stupid self at times have to manage correctly and as we all get older and more dare i say sensible................the whole anger temper subject is a massive debate and everytime it is debated the opinions of every player are so different its usually impossible to have the same !

The bottom line is that most players will handle it (some better than others) in their own particular way, the only criteria being that the player or players do not become confrontational, which lets face it shouldnt only apply to sport.

The last thing i would say is this, we all should manage temper but we also need "characters" in whatever sport it happens to be as machine like clones would be maybe tediouis and boring............

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

agreed dave,i didnt think that saying "losing your temper is a bad thing" would cause so much negative comment from some players on the site,i thought that pointing the young, and others, away from this behavior which i have been guilty of, would be a positive step forward in some way ,i must be wrong,my apologies if i have offended anyone with this initial post. i feel i had to defend my initial post as it was being attacked so some form of defense was called for, i believe.

[Blocking Ace]

How about a challenge match:

CLONES v CLOWNS

[JKC]

i take it you dont agree with my original post from your above comments would you like to explain and enlighten my ignorance
I do agree in most cases that you play worse when you lose your temper. I was just impressed with how many times you said the same thing in a post without ever sounding like you were rambling.

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

i repeated myself in the post deliberatly to drive it home to the young if they read the post, as sometimes they have a tendancy to forget things that are taught.

[DaveR]

Well i have to say i can ramble with the best of them, but sadly my ramblings never impress anyone these days !

arrrr well .............. i will say this when posting at a late time when ive had a beer or two seems to loosen the typing fingers nevermind the typo errors creeping in.:snigger:

[HarryBelafonte]

i think we were all suprised that some one who loses there rag so much would post such a thread, but in hindsite the best people to warn others of such things,is someone who has lots of experience of such things .for example ex alcoholics,ex drug users ,etc etc so well done fantasy:taz::happy:,good to advise the youngsters and not so youngsters of losing your temper,not used to you being so serious and sensible.and me not being so serious and sensible and what a rambling piece of a silly post this is ,was ah well back to being flippant
Hurraaaaaa.....:static:

[Annie]

I'm becoming increasingly concerned at the constant use of this smilie >> :static: by the MALE participants of this site! :resent:

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

:thtease:hoorah for flippancy..........the other dolphin was cool also.........( flipper):thumbsup::thtease::thtease::thtease:

[The Windmill]

Boys.......Please put your handbags away........

[FantasyCheeseBasin]

too late windmill our handbags went years ago mate we kissed and made up ........weve moved on to discussing blades now ................hoorah for mince pies and corned beef toasties with mayo......:thtease::thtease::thtease::thtease::tht ease::thtease:

[JKC]

My handbag was never out, I was just getting some practice in on an important aspect of my game.

[Anth Barella]

now now ladies put the handbags down lol, you two seem to making a bit of a scene, and you have both reacted in the opposite way you said that you normally do.

[JKC]

It's only a bit of fun really. I rarely get upset with people on Forums unless they are real idiots. I'm sure I have played Fantasy before and I don't think the match was memorable so he can't be one of those.

[Spongebob!]

It's only a bit of fun really. I rarely get upset with people on Forums unless they are real idiots. I'm sure I have played Fantasy before and I don't think the match was memorable so he can't be one of those.

You probably just beat him 3 straight - everyone else does..!!!

Only kidding Cheesy - cornbeef pasty on its way as means of an apology!!!

Spongemonster!!!!:taz:

[JKC]

I can't remember how many sets we played, but I can remember the result. (Assuming FCB is who I think he is).